URUKUNDO

Mu mudugudu muto wa Nyamabuye, hari umusore witwa Eric n'umukobwa witwa Aline. Bari bakundanye imyaka itatu, urukundo rwabo rukaba icyitegererezo mu muryango n’inshuti zabo. Babaga bafatanye mu byishimo no mu bibazo, buri gihe basezeranye kudatatana.

Ariko nk'uko ubuzima butajya bugenda uko umuntu abiteganya, umunsi umwe Eric yabonye akazi mu mujyi wa Kigali. Ibyo byasabaga ko agenda, agasiga Aline mu mujyi wabo. Byari igihe gikomeye kuri bombi kuko batari barigeze batandukana igihe kinini.

Aline yari afite ubwoba ko umubano wabo ushobora gucika intege. Yibazaga niba urukundo rwabo ruzihanganira intera iri hagati yabo. Eric yamwijeje ko nta kintu na kimwe cyabatanya. "Niba urukundo rwacu ari urukundo nyarwo, ruzatsinda ikigeragezo cyose," niko yamubwiye amureba mu maso.

Iminsi yarashize, ibyishimo byabo bihinduka ikizamini. Aline yatangiye kumva ko Eric atakimwitaho nk'uko byahoze. Ubutumwa yabwoheraga bwatinzaga, amuhamagara ntamubone nk'uko byari bisanzwe. Byarangiriye aho atangira kubona amafoto ya Eric ku mbuga nkoranyambaga ari kumwe n’abandi bakobwa, bigatuma umutima we ugira impungenge.

Umunsi umwe, Aline yafashe icyemezo cyo kujya i Kigali atunguranye. Yashakaga kumenya ukuri ku byo yabonaga. Agezeyo, yasanze Eric ari kumwe n’undi mukobwa. Byaramushenguye, umutima umubabaza cyane kuko yatekerezaga ko urukundo rwabo rwari rukomeye.

Eric yagerageje kwisobanura, ariko Aline yamurebye mu maso aramubwira ati: "Urukundo rudatsinda ibigeragezo si urukundo. Niba wasanze undi, sinzaguhatira kugaruka."

Aline yarahindukiye, agenda yihangana n'uburakari bwamurenze. Yize isomo rikomeye: urukundo nyarwo ruguma ruhamye n'iyo ibihe bigoye. Yafashe icyemezo cyo gukomeza ubuzima bwe, yiga uko yakwiyitaho no kwiyubaka.

Nyuma y’imyaka ibiri, Aline yabonye umuntu wundi wamukunze by’ukuri, atamuca inyuma kandi amuha agaciro. Yaje gusobanukirwa ko byari ngombwa kunyura muri ibyo byose kugira ngo amenye agaciro k’urukundo nyarwo.

Isomo: Urukundo rw’ukuri si amagambo gusa. Ni ukwizerana, gukundana nta buryarya no kugumana mu byiza no mu bibi. Iyo urukundo rugeragejwe, nibwo ruzana ukuri kwarwo.

Mu mujyi wa Kigali, aho urukundo rwambariwe ubusa n’imitima y’abakundana, hari umusore witwa Eric n’inkumi yitwa Aline. Urukundo rwabo rwatangiye mu bihe by’ubusore, ubwo bahuriraga ku ishuri ryisumbuye. Ku munsi wa mbere babonana, byari nk’inzozi. Amaso ya Aline yaramuraburaburaga, imbavu za Eric zikazamo ubukonje atazi aho buturutse. Ntibisobanuraga amagambo, ariko imitima yabo yari yatangiye kwandika inkuru itazibagirana.

Nyuma y’imyaka ibiri, urukundo rwabo rwari rukomeye nk’ishyamba ry’imizabibu. Bari babaye umwe, urukundo rwabo rukaba nk’indirimbo igira amagambo meza. Ariko nk'uko bisanzwe, urukundo rugira ibyiza n’ibigeragezo.

Aline yarangije amashuri yisumbuye, ahabwa amahirwe yo kujya kwiga hanze y’igihugu. Eric yumvise inkuru, umutima umuvamo. Yari azi ko urukundo rutandukanywa n’intera rushobora gusenyuka nk’inkuta zubatswe ku musenyi. Aline yamwijeje ko nta cyahungabanya urukundo rwabo. "Nzakomeza kugukunda, kabone n'iyo inyanja zatwinjiramo," yabwiye Eric n’amarira yuzuye mu maso.

Imyaka ibiri yarashize, urukundo rwabo rwandikirana amabaruwa, bagahana amafoto, bakavugana kuri telefone. Ariko igihe cyarageze, ibintu bitangira guhinduka. Aline yatangiye gutinda kwandika, agasubiza ubutumwa bwatinze. Eric yatangiye kugira impungenge. Umunsi umwe, yahamagaye Aline, ariko telefone irasona ntiyitabwe. Umutima we warushijeho kugira impagarara.

Hashize ukwezi, Aline yohereza ubutumwa bugufi: "Eric, ndababarira, ariko ibintu byarahindutse." Aya magambo yaramuciye intege, yumva isi imuvuyemo.

Yagerageje kumusaba ibisobanuro, ariko Aline ntiyashakaga kumubwira byinshi. Nyuma y’amezi make, Eric yamenye ko Aline yari yarakunze undi musore aho yagiye kwiga. Byamubabaje cyane, yumva ko urukundo rwabo rwari inzozi zishiriye mu bushyuhe bw’ikirere.

Gusa, nk’uko byagenze ubwo yakundaga Aline, igihe nacyo cyari igisubizo. Eric yagiye kwiga kaminuza, arashaka uko yisubiza icyizere. Ntiyigeze yibagirwa urukundo rwa mbere, ariko ntiyanagumye mu gahinda. Yakoze cyane, akomeza kwiga, ndetse abonye akazi keza mu gihugu.

Hashize imyaka itanu, umunsi umwe ubwo yari mu mujyi, Eric yahuriye na Aline. Yararebye, asanga aracyafite ya sura nziza, ariko mu maso ye harimo agahinda. Baganiriye by’igihe gito, maze Aline amusaba imbabazi ku byo yamukoreye. Yavuze ko urukundo rushya yizeyemo ibyishimo rwasenyutse vuba, ko yibeshye cyane.

Eric yaramusabye imbabazi nawe, ariko ntiyigeze agaruka mu rukundo nawe. Yarwanye urugamba rukomeye rwo kwiyakira, kandi yari amaze kumenya ko urukundo rw’ukuri rutangwa n’igihe, aho kumva amarangamutima gusa.

Aline yarize, amusaba imbabazi bwa nyuma, maze buri wese akomeza ubuzima bwe. Nubwo urukundo rwabo rutarangiriye mu byishimo, rwari inkuru itazibagirana mu mitima yabo bombi. Bize isomo ry’uko urukundo rutagira ubudahemuka ruba nk’igiti gikomeye, aho kuba igihu gihita kigenda.

Eric yakomeje ubuzima bwe, nyuma aza gukunda undi mukobwa wamukunze mu kuri. Urukundo rwe rushya rwabaye nk’urumuri rumurika mu mwijima, rumwereka ko urukundo rutagendeye ku mateka, ahubwo rurema ibishya. Aline na we yize ko urukundo ari umwanzuro, atari amarangamutima y’igihe gito.

Iyo nkuru ya Eric na Aline itwigisha ko urukundo nyakuri rutagendera ku nzozi gusa, ahubwo rusaba kwitanga, kwihangana, no guharanira iby’ukuri.

Rugwiro na Sandrine bari abantu babiri bamaranye imyaka itandatu bakundana. Urukundo rwabo rwari rwarashinze imizi, rwerekana icyizere n’ahazaza heza. Gusa, nk’uko bivugwa, aho urukundo ruri n’imbogamizi zihaboneka.

Rugwiro yakuriye mu muryango ukennye, naho Sandrine ava mu muryango wifashije. Urukundo rwabo rwaravuzwe cyane, ariko si bose barwishimiraga, cyane cyane ababyeyi ba Sandrine batashakaga ko umukobwa wabo ashakana n’umusore batari ku rwego rumwe mu bukungu.

Bukeye, umuryango wa Sandrine wategetse umukobwa wabo kwitandukanya na Rugwiro, bamubwira ko badashobora kwemera ko arongorwa n’umusore utari ku rwego rwabo. Byari bikomeye kuri bombi kuko bakundanaga by’ukuri. Sandrine yahatiwe kujya kwiga hanze y’igihugu kugira ngo urukundo rwabo rucike burundu.

Rugwiro ntiyacitse intege. Yakoze cyane, yiga, akora imirimo iciriritse ariko afite intego yo kwigaragaza no kwihagararaho. Mu myaka itatu Sandrine amaze hanze, Rugwiro yabaye umuyobozi mu kigo gikomeye, aba umuntu ukomeye mu muryango we.

Igihe Sandrine yagarukaga, yasanze Rugwiro yarahindutse umuntu wihagazeho, kandi akaba akimukunda. Nubwo ababyeyi be bagerageje kumubuza kongera gukunda Rugwiro, yarabahakaniye ababwira ko atazigera yibagirwa urukundo nyarwo.

Nyuma yo guhangana n’izo mbogamizi zose, Sandrine na Rugwiro barashakanye. Byafashe igihe ngo imiryango yabo ibyakire, ariko nyuma barabyakiriye kuko babonye ko urukundo rwabo rwari urw’ukuri kandi rutagendera ku bukungu cyangwa ku mimerere y’imiryango.

ISOMO RY’INKURU: URUKUNDO NYAKURI RURATSINDA IBIGERAGEZO BYOSE. IYO ABANTU BABIRI BAKUNDANYE BY’UKURI, NTA KINTU NA KIMWE CYABACA INTEGE. IMBOGAMIZI NI INGENZI MU BUZIMA, ARIKO NTIZIKWIYE GUTUMA DUTANDUKANA N’ABADUKUNDA BY’UKURI.

Eric na Diane bari bakundanye byimazeyo kuva mu bwana bwabo. Bakuriye mu gace kamwe, bakundana mu bwiza no mu byago. Igihe cyarageze bajya kwiga muri kaminuza zitandukanye, ariko bagakomeza kuganira buri munsi, bagasangira inzozi z’ejo hazaza.

Nyamara, iyo nzira y’urukundo ntiyari yoroshye. Hari inshuti n’imiryango itifuzaga ko bakomezanya. Abantu bamwe babwiraga Diane ko Eric adashobora kuzamugeza ku buzima bwiza kuko yari avuka mu muryango usanzwe, bidateye imbere cyane. Diane yumvaga ayo magambo, ariko umutima we wakomezaga gukunda Eric nk’uko byahoze.

Ku rundi ruhande, Eric na we yahoraga abwirwa ko Diane ashobora kuzamwanga igihe azaba amaze kugira ubuzima bwiza, ko ashobora kuzamwihakana ngo ashyingirwe n’undi mugabo ufite amafaranga n’icyubahiro. Ibyo byamucaga intege ariko urukundo rwe na Diane rukarushaho gukomera.

Umunsi umwe, Diane yahamagawe n’umuryango we ngo bamusabe kwitandukanya na Eric burundu. Bamusabye gukunda undi musore wari ukize, ngo byazamugirira akamaro. Yarumviye ariko umutima we ukomeza kumubwira ko atari byo. Yaratekereje cyane, afata umwanzuro wo guhura na Eric, bakaganira ku kibazo cyabo.

Baganiriye igihe kinini, bemeranya ko ntawundi muntu uzabatandukanya. Diane yasobanuriye umuryango we ko urukundo nyakuri rudashingira ku bukungu, ko Eric ari we yahisemo, kandi ko azamuba hafi mu bihe byose. Eric na we yagaragaje ko azaharanira guha Diane ubuzima bwiza, akora cyane ngo ateze imbere ahazaza habo.

Nyuma y’imyaka ibiri, barashyingiranywe. Bamaze kubana, ubuzima bwabo bwagiye burushaho kuba bwiza, ndetse abari barabacaga intege babona ko urukundo rwabo rwari urw’ukuri. Amaherezo, bose barabyemeye, ndetse bahinduka abashyigikira urukundo rwabo.

ISOMO RY’INKURU: NTA WUKWIRIYE KWEMERA KO AMAGAMBO Y’ABANDI ATUMA ATANDUKANA N’UWO AKUNDA BY’UKURI. URUKUNDO RUKOMEYE RURANESHA IBIGERAGEZO BYOSE.